Envy is defined as “a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.” It’s one of the Seven Deadly Sins according to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and, in The Conquest of Happiness, atheist philosopher Bertrand Russell wrote that envy was one of the strongest causes of unhappiness. Sadly, marketing is all about stirring up envy to convince you that you need something you didn’t even know existed.
Commercials and advertisements are designed to show happy, attractive people using some product with the implication that you, too, could be happy and attractive if you also used it. The explosion of social media only made things worse. A social media feed showing people’s best moments gives readers a false sense of the happiness of others. “Influencer” accounts barrage us with unrealistic depictions of mostly fictitious luxury lifestyles.
Even seemingly trivial, inconsequential things can inflame the envy bug. I’ve done a bag trade experiment many times, with many different types of students. It’s designed to demonstrate how trade makes society better off, simply because different people have different preferences.
Each person gets a paper bag, and they’re told the contents of the bag are theirs to keep. They don’t know what is in any of the bags, which contain different types of candy or “healthy snacks” like raisins. In the first round, participants look inside their own bags and provide a baseline score of overall happiness, based on a scale of one to five. In the second round, the only thing that changes is that students get to see the contents of a few other bags. They are not yet allowed to trade. Every single time I’ve conducted the experiment, the overall level of happiness in the group decreased after seeing other bags. Nothing changed other than their knowledge of what other people have.
It’s like we’re hard-wired for our perception of others to determine our own happiness. The self-esteem bot comic below pretty much sums it up. (Used by permission of Zach Weinersmith, creator of the SMBC comic)

That’s a pretty sad but accurate depiction of human nature. Being aware of this inherent envy can help you overcome it. Trying to keep up with the Joneses is not a good strategy for financial wellbeing.
When you try to set your financial or life goals, think about what makes you happy, not what makes others happy or how you think their perception of your life will make you feel. And you should remember that life is not all about money and possessions. The more material possessions you think you need, the more time you have to spend working to acquire them. Personally, I’d love to have a 10-car garage attached to a house that backs up to a 3-mile twisty road course. If I worked hard enough to afford all of that, I’d never have time to actually enjoy those cars, and I’d likely not have a loving family because I would have neglected them while working so much.
There are lots of articles and studies making the case that money can’t buy happiness (e.g., Time, Psychology Today, American Psychological Association). Of course, if you don’t have any money, you probably disagree, or if you’re bombarded with images of happy people who all have money, you could think their money is the source of that happiness.
What money can buy is a life with less stress, IF you do it correctly. It takes planning for you to budget to live within your means and save aggressively to maintain a realistic lifestyle without being bogged down by debt and other expenses. You won’t be able to do that if you allow envy to seduce you into excessive spending or unrealistic expectations.

